If your spouse initiates an adversarial process, even though you would prefer to mediate, you still have options. You can consult with a mediator / conflict coach to focus o how you will use the process to your best advantage. Using a mediation-based approach, you can be coached to frame positive responses to negative positions. You can avoid needlessly escalating the conflict, and maintain a principled approach to obtaining a fair and lasting agreement. For more information, call Georgia Daniels at 626-441-1900.