Mediation is especially effective in situations in which there may be continuing relationships among the parties, such as conflicts between adult siblings over issues related to their aging parents, their parents’ finances, or their estates. Mediation is often the perfect forum for resolution of competing claims among family members.
Online mediation connects distant participants. Hectic schedules or geographic distance can make it nearly impossible to get everyone together for multiple mediation sessions. Video or phone sessions, email, and courier services or postal mail can support complete online mediations. Mediation has always been confidential and convenient. Please contact me for more information.
Mediation can be the best process for sorting out the different interests present when disputes arise in the context of a family-owned business. Please contact me with your questions.
Premarital mediation consists of conversations intended to support your upcoming marriage. Premarital mediation conversations are particularly valuable for second or subsequent marriages. While it is certainly true that considering the consequences of divorce when you are planning your wedding is not romantic, there are many topics you may include in your conversations that will support your married life:
- The needs of children or grandchildren
- The financial or entrepreneurial aspect of marriage is important.
- What joint enterprises (house, savings, travel, business, etc.) will you have?
- Is there a significant difference in assets, liabilities, income, and debts?
- What about family businesses, gifts, or inheritances?
- Will everything be community property?
- Will some assets remain separate?
- What about expectations for retirement?
- What else is important to you?
- It is also true that not everyone needs a written premarital agreement.
Sometimes just having the conversation is enough. Please call to inquire.
Marital mediation provides a safe environment in which to mediate a specific issue that is troubling your marriage, with the intent to strengthen the marriage. Think of it as mediating with the goal of staying married. Flexibility and willingness to be open to new ways of looking at things is helpful. In some cases, even infidelity can be addressed and placed in a reframed context. You may learn new communication skills and practice them as you navigate through the current rough waters. Because supporting marriage through marital mediation resonates with my personal values, fees for marital mediation are less than for divorce mediation. Please call to inquire.
Conflict coaching is a good choice when you want to mediate issues, such as marital issues, but the other party doesn’t. There may be a divorce pending, or not. Conflict coaching focuses on developing your “conflict response” muscles. When you break an old pattern of communication in your relationship, you may be happily surprised with the result. Conflict coaching aims to help you grow in maturity and enjoyment of life as you learn strategies for managing conflict; it is not a substitute for legal advice. It accepts as “given” that there is conflict, and that you want to frame your own response to avoid unnecessary escalation. Your goal is to successfully manage your response to the conflict. Fees for one-party conflict coaching are less than for multi-party mediation. Please call to inquire.
MEDIATION and POWER – Mediate, Don’t Litigate!
Mediation and litigation are polar opposites when it comes to power – who has the power, and how power is exercised to make decisions. In court, a judge makes the decision. In a litigated divorce, the parties or their lawyers can bring things to the court’s attention, but the court decides. Mediation is different. The mediator is neutral, a facilitator, not a decider. The mediator doesn’t determine who is right or wrong and does not have the power to make clients do what the mediator thinks would be best. The mediator may give examples of options to consider and facilitates conversations about possible solutions. The power to make decisions rests with the clients.
I appreciate your compassion, professionalism, and attention to detail. You were a pleasure to work with, and I would not hesitate to recommend your services.”
… appreciate her calm demeanor and gentle but effective style of mediation.”